Saturday, February 27, 2010
I'll just say it out loud. Fifty. 50. Five-O.
And when my dad turned 50, I told him if he were furniture, he'd be worth more as he's finally an antique. Not so with humans. Wasn't I cute? Not so funny anymore.
I've never been the type to hide my age. Maybe it's too many years of Popeye saying, "I am what I am!"
I've spent a lot of my adult years raising kids. I'm still not done. And now my mom has moved here, so I help her as well. I think they call us The Sandwich Generation when this happens. It's easy to just go with the flow and spend the day putting out other people's fires. But time keeps going. And now there are probably more years behind me than ahead of me. I think it's time to work on my own personal Bucket List.
Maybe the winds are all about to change...
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
- Kindness and compassion. Learn how to put yourself into other people's shoes. When everyone else jumps on a bandwagon against something someone did, hold back a little bit.
- Live in the moment. Realize that there are about 16 waking hours in a day. And when they're gone, they're gone. There's nothing wrong with having a little "down time" but make sure you have some "up time too."
- Listen to people when they talk to you. Give them your full attention. Think about what they're saying but also why they might be saying it to you.
- Learn healthy eating choices and find exercise that you like and can do nearly every day. You're going to be in this body for a while - longer if you take care of it
- Learn your strengths and your weaknesses. Do something about or with both. Take time to get to know yourself.
- Learn about the nature of advertising and marketing.
- Learn how to pursue your interests. Learn how to find information on the internet.
- Be brave. Try new things. You never know what you might actually like.
Thursday, February 4, 2010
But that's not what happened.
What actually happened is that they found a job they wanted, and they made their own rhythm cooperate. They are not late to work. I sometimes don't even get up with them! They have alarm clocks. They shower. They manage just fine thank-you-very- much (I don't mean that snappy tone for you all - just my long ago naysayers!) Katie proved this to me when she went to stay with her grandma in so she could attend a month-long intensive drama program. She got herself up at 5 a.m., checked her email, fixed her breakfast, showered, dressed, and caught the city bus to go downtown. She was 15. She's nearly 19 now, and if she needs to be at work or go to an audition or take a class, she gets herself there on time. She is aware that she needs to go to bed earlier than usual, and just goes.
Michael and Katie's first jobs were at Barnes and Noble. They had a lot of 7 a.m. shifts. They were never late because they wanted to sleep in. At 13, Alyssa started going to cheerleading competition on weekends. We frequently stayed in hotels and had to be at the competition by 7 a.m. That meant she usually needed to start getting ready around 5:45. She jumped right up and started getting ready. Now she's in school and has to be up by 7:30 every weekday. She has no problem with it. Sure, she sleeps until noon on the weekends when she can, but she stays up late then too. And it's not because she had to practice to do this.
So, that's my real life experience with kids and sleep schedules. No one needed to rehearse getting up early. They did/do it when they need to.
Just an interesting little fact... at least to me.